One of the things that many women say after a break up is “I miss my ex boyfriend.” I’ve said it and many of my female friends have as well. When we’ve been in a relationship it’s natural to miss that person once things end. However, for some women the longing goes much deeper than simply missing the companionship. They truly love their ex boyfriends and feel that they are missing their one chance at true love. If you feel this way, it’s worth the effort to try and win him back.
You don’t want to call up his family or close friends and say “I miss my ex boyfriend.” Even though you may be very close with them, involving them, in any way, in your relationship will backfire. Men are fairly private and to them relationship issues need to stay between the two of you. If you talk to mutual friends about the problems you two have been having, he’ll hear about it and he’ll resent you for it. If you must share your feelings do it in a journal or with someone who doesn’t even know who your ex is. This will save you a great deal of grief in the long run and will show him that you can be trusted to keep private matters quiet.
If you have said to yourself that I miss my ex boyfriend you already know that a large part of what you’re feeling is loss. It’s difficult to end all communication with the person you adore most, but in order to get him back, that is exactly what you need to do. You may feel an urge to either call him or email him to try and clear the air. If you do this you may actually damage the relationship beyond repair. The reason is that in the heat of the moment, when your emotions are running high, you are bound to say things that will come across as desperate. Men are attracted to strong, emotionally stable women. If you appear as though you can’t live without him, he’ll label you as too dependent. Give him some space after the split. You’ll be glad you did. He’ll begin to miss you and the distance will make him feel drawn to you again. In the case of broken relationships, absence does indeed make the heart grow fonder.